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content/personal/Messages_ignored_AGAIN.md

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+title = 'Messages ignored - AGAIN!'
+date = 2024-12-22
+image = '/static/isp_hell.jpeg'
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+
+![](/static/isp_hell.jpeg)
+
+Oh fuck you ISP. Out of nowhere they blocked my XMPP server so I didn't recieve any messeges from [contact_me](/whoami/contact_me/) page.
+
+Like really there is no legal reason to do it for them.
+
+Guess I need to make reasearch once again about secure AND DECENTRALIZED messenging and how to implement it to my server.
+
+{{< spoiler AI.img >}}
+
+Cool image generated with AI generated keywords:  
+`
+A fiery abyss, symbolizing 'Internet Service Provider (ISP) hell', with a chaotic tapestry of tangled internet cables stretching upwards, seemingly reaching for a non-existent escape. The cables, which are a mix of frayed ends and burnt outlines, represent the frustrating connections and endless technical issues. In the foreground, a row of desolate computers, their screens displaying the dreaded "No Network" error message, are lined up as if awaiting a never-ending queue for customer service. The background is an inferno of digital data flaming into oblivion, reflecting the lost information and time consumed by slow internet speeds and service outages. Above the scene, a grim reaper-like figure, draped in a cloak made of internet service agreements, looms over the computers, controlling the fiery cables like puppet strings. The heat is palpable, with computer fans whirring in a futile attempt to cool the burning hardware below. In the distance, a helpdesk is engulfed in flames, surrounded by tortured souls of customers stuck in eternal support calls. The whole scene is an eerie depiction of the digital purgatory that internet users dread, a stark reminder of the hellish experience that comes with unreliable internet service.
+`
+
+{{< /spoiler >}}

content/productivity/HowTo_social_media.md

@@ -2,6 +2,7 @@
 title = 'HowTo Social Media'
 date = 2024-12-29
 image = 'https://external-content.duckduckgo.com/iu/?u=https%3A%2F%2Fi.imgflip.com%2F6f06pd.png&f=1&nofb=1&ipt=2f81db32331e1bc7c8b953df2d8146a98d1a9de456f8b5cc98c7e67f4a5b557e&ipo=images'
+tags = ["privacy"]
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 ## Privacy
@@ -18,7 +19,7 @@ is a fancy way of saying:
 
 Oh wait, you even don't need anything to share with other people! Fancy algorithms will determine it by what you like, watch and search (tiktok, instagram...) and then use it to get maximum profit out of you as a consumer. 
 
-Ooh... Wait... It even don't need to be social media anymore, it is also marketplaces (amazon, aliexpress...) who knows anything about you.
+Ooh... Wait... It even don't need to be social media anymore, it is also [marketplaces](TODO) (amazon, aliexpress...) who knows anything about you.
 
 And our privacy even not the worst part (thou **really bad**). The worst part is that your productivity and mental health also suffer greatly.
 
@@ -27,7 +28,7 @@ And our privacy even not the worst part (thou **really bad**). The worst part is
 People today are consumers. We are thrilled to get our next dose of dophamine by:
  - watching tik-tok,
  - ~doom~ scrolling social media,
- - searching your ideal product you want to ~not~ buy in marketplace. 
+ - searching your ideal product you want ~not~ to buy in marketplace... 
 
 But in fact we are just wasting our time and energy. Don't understimate energy wasted on this.
 
@@ -38,60 +39,134 @@ But in fact we are just wasting our time and energy. Don't understimate energy w
 > I like how it's pictured in game `MULLET MADJACK`   
   (and game have the style, definitely recomended to try).  
 
-### Attention span
+### Attention
 
-TODO
+Social media and its notifications (posts, messages) gets you distracted.
+
+Distraction leads to stress, which leads to reduced productivity. 
+
+Beside stress its hard to focus on things you want to do (or especially need to do).
+ <!--TODO Attention span generally decreased for 2 times in last 20 years  -->
+
+
+## Cure
+
+My answer to all those problems is a [Minimalism/Essentialism](TODO). Both in virtual and real worlds.
+
+ - Remove any social media if possible
+ - [Use RSS](TODO) to get posts from blogs/channels/community...
+ - Setup XMPP/Matrix bridge with your friends/work group chats
+ - Move to [secure messenger (XMPP)](TODO) 
+ - If you have to use social media, try to keep it minimal:
+ 	- Define what you **need** from social media (e.g. yt video development - you need to post new videos and answer comments)
+ 	- Disable notifications
+ 	- Disable any unnecesarry for your **needs** features (like feed, stories, channels, group chats...)
+ 	- Make sure it does only what you need from it and nothing more that may lure you to do what you don't want to
+ 	- Create separate account
+ 	- Create separate phone profile/user to use social media
+ 	- Use DnD
+ 	- Use more private alternative (like instead youtube - invidious, telegram - some dumb telegram client)
+<!-- TODO revisit it to declutter it -->
+
+
+&nbsp;
 
-NOTIFICATIONS TODO
 
 ## Considirations
 
-### "But i will miss out how my friends are doing and what is happening in a world!"
+{{< spoiler "If you are in doubt, click on me." >}}
+
+![](https://external-content.duckduckgo.com/iu/?u=https%3A%2F%2Fi.redd.it%2Fbuvdn4sijyz11.png&f=1&nofb=1&ipt=a0524315bfd03f0f41488f4177eec562ab1d028f21274def39ba717ed7004c3d&ipo=images)
+
+### "But I like to read comments"
+
+[Internet is dead.](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dead_Internet_theory)
+
+I kinda like reddit that people still there give good comments and creating interesting discussions. But there are like:
+ - 1% of great comments that answers the question at hand
+ - 7% of relevant discussion
+ - 92% of doom scrolling in search of these 8% comments
+
+
+[FunnyLink1](https://www.reddit.com/r/Monero/comments/1geh6qg/comment/luhrsbv/)
+
+[FunnyLink1](https://t.me/devstdout/15602)
+<!-- lol, they lead to social media -->
+
+
+### "But I will miss out how my friends are doing and what is happening in a world!"
 
 You will not miss out things if you delete yourself out of social media.
 
-If it's important enough you will learn it from people near you. 
+Does all thing in the World troubles you? Are you a god or something? If it's important enough you will learn it from people near you. 
 
 If it's important to you, you will learn it by yourself.
 
 ### "But I use it (youtube/tiktok) for educational purposes!" 
 
-TODO
-"We are what we consume of"
-and thus we need to get rid of tik-toks, yt shorts ultimately.
-and watch choisen type of content that will benefitting for us
+"We are what we consume of"  
+So, you use short videos to get knowledge? Reading still a thing. Go to the Internet and do your research instead of mindless consuming random information.  
+Or at least go watch long video about this topic and take notes somewhere.
+
+So ultimately you should get rid of tik-toks and yt shorts.
+
+And if you think that you watch YT mainly for educational purposes and occasional fun, then create second account and devide subscriptions there. Don't get distracted by fun when you trying to learn something.
+
+Install browser add-on that gets rid of YT shorts and any recomendations.
 
 
-### "But I like to get notifications about TODO"
+### "But I like to get notifications about new posts of my favorite blogger / messages from friends!"
 
-TODO
-### TODO What are you talking about, i am not addicted
-TODO
+Do you have own life? Enable DnD (Do not Disturb) mode on phone. 
 
-## TODO but i need it for my work
-TODO
+Do things that need to be done and when you have free time to waste check those notifications. If it's really urgent you will get a call.
 
+### "What are you talking about, I'm not addicted. Are you insane?"
 
-## TODO but loose my contacts
-TODO
+Oh boy, take this phone, disable notification sound and place it out of sight in cabinet nearby (or in another room).  
+How fast will you want to check the phone?   
+Can you do that for at least 4 hours without consuming media from other devices?
 
+### "But i need it for my work"
 
+Well, separate Your life from your work. Create separate phone work profile/user with separate social media account. This way you won't get distracted by fun from phone and by work when you are off.
 
-## TODO What to do next in one word - like CURE
-TODO
+### "But I don't want to loose my connection with people!"
 
-{{< spoiler Examples >}}
-TODO
- &nbsp;
+Do you have strong bonds? Tell them that you are moving away from this platform and want to continue chat in a [messenger of your choice](TODO). If they want to continue to chat with you, they will consider installing it. And if you really want to, you can create bridge between messengers that you use (e.g. Alice use XMPP, Bob use Telegram. Alice setup bot that will relay messages from XMPP to Bob's telegram and vice versa.)
 
-## Examples
+If they not interested to continue chat with you, why the hell are you talking with them?
 
-I forgot to remove it from template
+### "Well, Telegram is a messenger, so I will stick with it"
+
+Well, by its defenition its a messanger, but its gone too far away from this defenition in my perception.
+ - Crypto wallet (another custodial wallet? Oh, wait there is non-custodial (NOT IN THE USA) TON Space. Lol.)? 
+ - Stars monetization
+ - Some premium emojis/stickers that (literally) shows you big ass?
+ - Paid emojis in account name (Well, you should monitize this hell machine somehow)
+ - Ads (Here is free [Monero](TODO) ad. Go buy/mine monero and [use it](TODO).)? 
+ - Channels (I mean, they are a lot of great content in them, but go fucking use RSS/anyBlogPlatform for this)? 
+ - Stories? 
+ - Birthdays (if you don't remember about birthday of that person and didn't get invited, why should you care OR why you should share with anyone your birthday)? 
+ - Find people nearby (actually was a cool feature when it wasn't so popular, now it's another privacy hell)? 
+ - Saved messages (which contains long posts from channels you will never ever read)?
+ - Encrypted chats (which unconvinient for normies thus nobody use them thus all is visible to admins)?
+ - Photo editor (convinient thing but why do i need masks in it???)?
+(I don't even talk about privacy issues right here.)
+The only thing that visibly devides it from typical social media is that you can't just see what friends/communities/ 
+
+If you think that it is messenger then remove all features *to make it messenger*. Probably there is some dumb android client for that.
 
 {{< /spoiler >}}
 
+
+> Oh boy how big this post turned out. If you are the One who has read all this (and you are not FBI agent) go write me a line - [XMPP](https://blog.ca.sual.in/whoami/contact_me/).
+
+
+
 {{< source >}}
 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f9W7pTqxh58&list=PLusAca3pUpLfhWIzQPQiFt-tX2G17PCz4&index=13
 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XHAV87e0hLY
+my antiutopic thoughts
 {{< /source >}}